So after doing a little research I have fond the greatest place. Al-Hussein Youth City Club. It is the best that I have found so far!!! Here is the website:
We looked into Hotel memberships but they are expensive and well to say the least "stuffy" The membership for hotels usually run 1050+ (jd) and that is just for 1 person. But a family membership (2 adults) is just over 1000jd/year and kids under 5 are free.
Also they have the Jordanian Olympic committee is there so lessons are in abundance. For example 5 lessons is only 75jd.
The place is huge they have horseback riding, about 3 pools (one Olympic outdoor) a kids pool with slides, and an indoor pool, tennis courts, soccer fields, running track, and an outdoor walking/jogging path, a gym for exercise with aerobics instruction. And best of all it is CLEAN!
Can you tell I am thrilled!!!!