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Also interested in meeting new people through here too that have been living in Sandton area or Joburg for a while. =]

Hello Taf.

Welcome to Íæż½ã½ã!

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Well Taf, I dunno ... friends don't fall out of the sky. If it's only your first month here I wouldn't be too hard on anything: give it time. Put yourself out there, keep engaging people, and get to know enough about people that they're comfortable with you before you drop an invitation to join you in some activity. As for why you're not making friends with black people, that's something only you could answer: you may well have more in common with the white guys from their middle-class Western backgrounds.

Hi there,

I've also found south Africans to be clique-ish. I just moved here a few months ago and no one at my school seems interested in being friends. Everyone wants to know what I think of SA but they are not interested in knowing me at all. I was able to make one really great friend, but  don't take it personally, south Africans also aren't big on small talk if you've noticed. When my fiancé visited me in the states he asked me if all Americans chat with random people in shops lol. Here ppl look at you crazy if you even ask them a question. I think it's just a joburg thing though, people are very nice here but they keep to themselves which makes it hard to get to know people.

My advice, just be yourself and keep being friendly, you will make friends.

-chinal-

Yeah, so far so good. I've made a few friends. I've been patient about it lol

peoeple here seem clique-ish but in actual fact they are just reserved. you will find friends who are more interested in other cultures but many just stick to friends from their own culture.
we are not very used to other expats coming here so its kinda strange for us.
sooner or later u will find a few more openminded people.

All you have to do is patient and for sure you circle of friends will grow .
then you will ask where did they came from ....

choose your friends carefully....if u are a good judge of character you will have friends you like

all the best

Don't let this bother you,[moderated: maybe offensive],even to blacks so far you are not from southern africa and u don't understand their language,they take you to be an enemy. South africa is not a friendly country,only God knows why they are like that,both the young and the old. So you have to just take them for who they are and make better friends

I agree with "fingerlickskitchen". South Africans, more so black South Africans are just not friendly. You have better luck with coloreds who are by far the friendliest people I have ever met. I think it has to do with them seeing you as black and finding it absurd that you do not know any of their languages. My husband has had the experience where a complete stranger has said to him "How can you be black and not speak zulu." It's tough adjusting, but make friends where you can. We have become close friends with people from surrounding countries such as Zambia and Zimbabwe. Take it in stride, focus on your schoolwork. Best of luck to you.

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