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Laying the groundwork聽before the move

Organizing聽effectively聽begins with the right starting point.聽This聽isn't聽about the standard expatriate checklist, which聽we'll聽get to聽later. First, assess your and your聽children's聽current situations:

• How did you become a single parent?
• Is your ex-partner still involved? What custody arrangements are in place?
• What is your current employment status? How much do you earn? Do you have savings?
• How much do you and your children spend monthly?
• How long have you considered moving abroad? Why?
• How many children do you have, and how old are they?
• Do you often discuss travel plans with your children?
• Have you traveled with your children before? If so, how often and to where?
• Do you currently own or rent your home?
• How close do you live to your family? How strong are these relationships?
• Do you have a close circle of friends?
• How are your children performing in school? Do they have a聽strong聽social network?
• Have you secured a job in the country you plan to move to?
• Why did you choose this particular country?
• Do you and your children speak the language of the country you are moving to?
• Is this move temporary or permanent?
• Are you organized and adaptable?
• How do you manage administrative tasks?

Add any additional questions that come to mind regarding health, training needs, etc. Take your time to flesh out these answers. Moving abroad聽alone聽with children requires careful planning, emphasizing the need to strategize your expatriation well before initiating any administrative procedures.

Prepare yourself聽

Make sure you have a clear understanding of the expatriation project before introducing it to your children. While a fully fleshed-out plan聽isn't聽necessary鈥攁s your children and loved ones should contribute鈥攖he clarity of your vision is crucial to reassure your children. For instance, you might be deciding between a few countries; discuss the positive aspects and potential challenges of each candidly, keeping any uncertainties for discussions with your friends or family.聽If聽you're聽feeling聽overwhelmed, delaying the debate might be better聽rather聽than rushing into decisions.

Prepare your children聽

You need not finalize the destination country before discussing the move with your children, especially if they are older. Children in elementary school and beyond can understand and adapt to significant changes and should聽have the opportunity聽to express their thoughts and feelings. Consider their input seriously鈥攐lder children can be particularly insightful, even if they聽don't聽always show it. Avoid sudden announcements like,聽"Guess where聽we're聽moving next month!"聽Children, like adults, require time to adjust to the big news. They have their academic commitments, friendships, and activities to consider, making expatriation a potentially stressful and disruptive experience if not managed with care.

Prepare your relatives聽

There's聽no set order for informing your relatives or your children first鈥攊t's聽your call.聽Consider discussing聽your plans with family and friends first to gauge their reactions and receive support. Being a single parent can sometimes feel like carrying the world on your shoulders, so聽a聽little聽support can go a long way. Avoid springing the news on them at the last minute; they are an integral part of your support network, even if they聽aren't聽moving with you.

Project your children into their new聽life聽

Children need tangible details to grasp changes: What will happen to their toys? Where will they live and go to school? How will they maintain their friendships? Will someone be available to take them to their extracurricular activities?

Children understand that you are doing your best in the聽absence of the other parent.聽Whether you work full-time or聽are cutting聽back on expenses to provide for them, they may聽worry about聽the unknowns of moving abroad.聽Involving them in聽the聽planning聽process聽and helping them visualize their new life can alleviate some of their fears.

Be realistic to stay聽motivated聽

As a single parent, the initial months abroad will be challenging without the support network you had at home. You might have previously relied on grandparents to help the kids over weekends. Recognizing and planning for the absence of this support is crucial.

Make contacts in the host聽country聽

Ideally, connect with people who have already moved to your new country. Nowadays,聽it's聽easy to find expat groups on social networks and associations that help foreigners settle in. Engage with these communities well before聽your聽departure to help smooth your transition during those first few months.

Play fair with your聽employer聽

Discuss your situation openly with your potential or current employer. Whether you intend to work full or part-time, explain your circumstances. Consider asking for flexible working arrangements, like adjusted hours or partial remote work. Many employers value the well-being of their staff, which can enhance productivity and overall job satisfaction.

How to manage custody with the parent who stays聽

Your relationship with your ex-partner and the type of custody you have are crucial in planning your move to a foreign country. Keep them informed about your plans,聽particularly聽if the move will increase the physical distance between them and their children. Depending on the nature of your relationship and custody arrangements, maintaining a聽strong聽co-parenting relationship is essential for your聽children's聽well-being.

Maintain the connection with聽relatives聽

Staying in touch with your family and friends back home is vital. Involve your children in creating ways to keep up regular communication, such as through an online family journal, social media groups, or weekly video calls. Sharing the details of your new聽lives聽can be as enriching as hearing about the ongoing lives of those you care about.聽This connectivity is also聽a聽crucial聽aspect of聽adjusting well to life in a new country.